Winners and Losers in an Ordinary World

Overcoming the Lies of the Ego Through Extraordinary Thinking

Flying Lesson #2 - Jan. 13, 2020

Lee Travathan

    Living the ordinary life of the ego can be hard work. It is untrained, typically, and a bit of a brat child often. It loves to crate chaos and stress. An untamed and untrained ego can make your life a  mess, to say the least, and a real nightmare to say the worst. One of it's best tricks is to keep us separated from our true peaceful and content self... our Extraordinary Self.

    The ego lives in a world of winners and losers. And we can see that scenario played out just about everywhere we look. However, once you begin to learn Extraordinary Thinking and reap the benefits, you also begin to understand that there are no real winners and losers in life. There are just people doing what they do based on their own personal understanding of life. We add the labels. And we play the game. The roller coaster ride continues until we are finished with beating ourselves up. 

     I was with a friend over the weekend that told me about a particular incident he experienced with an out of control "winner takes all" personality. A true ego brat child in a grown man's body. My friend got kind of ripped apart emotionally by this character, as many have... and I know the story. I've experienced this same man go after me over next to nothing. But I am no longer at effect of his tirades while my friend was caught off guard and experienced both shock and pain. If Ext Thk (Extraordinary Thinking) has taught me anything over the years it is that our society breeds such characters by the millions. They are sent out into the world like loose cannons and the worst of that is that the ego is so big that they can't be helped or see beyond it. In their outfocused minds, they are "right" and everyone else is wrong. In essence, they'd rather be right than loved and in true ego brat fashion, they are their own worst enemy. But until they are willing to honestly look at themselves, there is little that anyone can do to help them. And the man I speak of here may very well be beyond assistance. I did my best to assure my friend that the outburst he told me about was not actually about anything he did or did not do... it was about the brat child throwing another of his prolific tantrums when he did not get his way.  

     So, why does this bully of a man do what he does? There are many reasons, of course, but in a simple analysis, it has to do with ordinary thinking and the way he has been trained to be. With his mind set the way it is, everything is about him and what he wants and needs. The ego is selfish that way. It will almost always throw a tantrum if it does not get what it wants. When he blew up at my friend he was not thinking of what my friend might need at all. He did not bother to make a simple request in a decent manner. He did not take the time to survey the situation and ask himself if he was seeing it clearly. No. He just reacted out of a pattern that has come to symbolize who he is to the people that know him well. A hot head. A bully. A mean self-centered person. And I can guess that in his mind, at the time, he honestly did believe that my friend was doing him wrong. He was not. No one was... but he was doing himself wrong. Without him understanding it, he was creating toxins in his own body as he blew apart emotionally. He truly is his own worst enemy. 

     You see, there is a significant flaw with the outfocused thinking of the day. It follows the same pattern of thought in most people. It automatically questions things that are opposite of the infocused mind. For instance, if the outfocused person questions what life can give them the infocused mind questions what it can give to life. The outfocused mind likes to focus on what can be taken from it while the infoucsed mind likes to think of abundance as the natural order of the universe. It believes in plenty while the ego believes heavily in lack. The ego mind believes that it must struggle for all it gets while the infocused mind know that it's needs are meet in a place and manner that it can't see with the human eye. The outfocused mind believes that happiness depends on things and persons outside of itself while the infocused mind believes that happiness is created by choice from within. Self denial of the Extraordinary Self is common to the ego mind while exploration of the Extraordinary Self is common to the infocused mind. 

     We all get to choose how we want our lives to function. But it does sometimes take some training to unlearn bad habits... and that is what ordinary thinking is, a bad habit that can be broken with a little support and willingness. That is where I come in as a teacher and a coach.

     Winners and losers is an idea that was created by ego based on the idea of  lack. It perceives that there is so little that some have to lose (get nothing) and some have to win (get as much as possible). The outcome is competition. But what if competition was just a thought form and that there really was no real thing called competition? What would you do then? Think about that. Take some notes. This could get interesting.  

Lee Travathan is the author of several books on Extraordinary Thinking. She is a certified counseling practitioner, certified art therapy coach, and has been a mentor and coach to creative people across the world for over 30 years specializing in 
Extraordinary Thinking.

You can reach her at 480-323-6579 or leetcreative@gmail.com